Melanie made me do it.
After years of hearing about it, I found a copy of Captivating by John & Stasi Eldredge and began reading. I am not very far into the book yet, but having read the first two chapters, let me sum up what seems to be the primary idea explained in Captivating (the book designated for women) and Wild at Heart (the intended for men).
John asserts in Wild at Heart that there are three primary things men want: to do battle, to experience adventure, and to rescue a “Beauty.” Corresponding to these masculine desires, the authors point out in Captivating, are three feminine ones: women want to be romanced, to have a role in a great adventure—a feminine take on being a warrior—and to “possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for.”
In all fairness, I need to read the remainder of the book before I pass judgment on these appointed desires, although I can assure you at this point, I’m pretty sure I’ll disagree with much of what they assert.
For now, though, all of this reducing into roles and ascribed desires seems like an exercise in taking something so complex and wonderfully diverse and multi-faceted as the wide sea of humanity and damning it up in a small pond on the flat Oklahoma prairie.
I cannot imagine, for example, that given the exercise of writing down my inner most desires in life that I would ever even think to mention even one of the three desires that, as a woman, are apparently the very crux of my heart.
I’m sure many of you have read one or both of these books. What are your impressions of the assertion that people have either a feminine or masculine heart, and that one’s gender so clearly determines specific God-given desires?
A hint of more to come: two upcoming chapters of note include “Arousing Adam,” and “Warrior Princess.”